I made a mistake. Nothing new for me, but.............sigh. I told my family "at large", I'd be "home" at the end of April for my son's wedding and then posted I'd be visiting my beloved aunt on one day before I went back. All of a sudden five or six of them invited themselves to come see me at my aunt's house. Got a message from my cousin, my aunt's daughter that now lives with her, that said, "How dare you invite people to Mom's house?". I didn't. I just said I'd be there. I told her so and asked her why she ASSUMES I set out to piss her off or inconvenience everyone. She signed off in a huff, telling me I'd better "hope they don't show up". Huh? First of all, it ISN'T her house, second, it isn't MY fault people want to see me after a couple of decades.
But, I fixed it. I, publicly, said I wouldn't be there. My beloved MUST be at work on that Monday and since it's a 7 to 8 hour trip, we must leave just after the wedding. I fixed it. I won't go home. No one will be inconvenienced or mad. I fixed it.
I didn't do anything wrong, but I fixed it. I will not see my family or my mother's grave because to do so would.......cause a problem. I don't want to do that. It's OK. Not a problem. It's OK. I've got this. Wish it was different, but, heck..........grin..........I wish that about a lot of things in life. It's OK.