I, FINALLY, sort of......Began Addressing a Family Bully

I'm going "home" in 10 days.  I lived 30 years being raised in small towns, with a huge extended family.  On Facebook, I posted a song I love that makes me think of home, "Red Dirt Road" by Brooks and Dunn.  Expressed how happy I was to return.

 

Shortly thereafter, I heard from my cousin who told me her mother, my beloved aunt, wanted it played at her funeral and our "Aunt Kathy" told her NO.  It wasn't Christian and it won't happen.  Blink.  Blank stare.  What?  My cousin explained to me that Kathy has, once again, bullied someone into doing what SHE wants. 

She did that, to me.  When my mother died, she bullied me, my mother's only child.  I was devastated and she took advantage of it.  She TOOK my mother's things from me, convincing me that my mom wanted her sisters, who knew her first, loved her longest.............to have everything.  I was "just" her only child.  Yeah, she got away with that.  Then.

Now, 16 years later............she's pissing me off, once again telling others what to do with THEIR lives or the end of them.  Oh, NO.  Nope.  Not gonna let this happen again.  Oh.....chuckle.........no.

So.........................I posted, publicly, sort of.............to only those I care about on Facebook, EXACTLY how she does NOT get a fucking say in ANYTHING anyone does in their life, period, not as long as I'm breathing.  Elder she may be, but................no, my mother taught me to love and care and believe that EVERYONE has a right to BE who they choose, period.  Kathy can kiss my ass, she's been a bully for TOO long.  Her antics, 30 years ago, made my mom use the word "fuck", never heard her use it regarding anyone other than Kathy.  So..................ha ha ha ha ha ha..................I put it out there, she doesn't get to decide jack shit about anyone's life but her own.  Period. 

I've had my own personal bullies, she was one of them and I folded.  But, ha ha ha ha..............I won't again, not to her.  Old  hateful bitch..............I'll never be my mother, but....................she taught me enough to protect me and mine. 

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Comments (5)

  1. formerlyme

    Golden, my best advice is to keep your distance from this particular situation. It’s your cousin’s job in this case to stand up to ‘Aunt Kathy’ on her mother’s behalf. Support her in that ‘behind the scenes’ if you want, but it would be a mistake to do more. It worries me that you seem to be drawn to drama like a moth to a flame. If you get in the middle of this, it won’t solve anything, but you could get burnt. This, of course, is just my humble opinion.

    April 19, 2017
    1. noahbody

      I completely agree.

      April 19, 2017
    2. GoldenPig2012

      Well, everything you say makes perfect sense IF I was a product of a sane family. I am not. Aunt Kathy has taken from MANY of us because she abused her status as our elder in our family and a sister to our mothers.
      I thought a long time about your “drawn to drama….” statement. Quite the opposite, most of my life. Avoided anything that would cause confrontation. But, I’ve aged, I’ve suffered by avoiding, and now………..I don’t consider saying what I think, relating my experiences “drama”. She has bullied her sister’s and brother’s children when her own siblings wouldn’t let her do it to them anymore. Now, we’re grown and we WERE raised right, we’ll not try to take from her, but, we won’t allow her to take from us. I think that can work.

      April 20, 2017
  2. Bettymom

    I wish I were a fly on the wall. No, wait, I’d get my brains splattered all over said wall. I’ll just sit quietly in the corner and listen.

    April 19, 2017
    1. GoldenPig2012

      You’d get a hell of a book out of our family. It would be fiction, of course, because, surely………..REAL people aren’t this crazy.

      April 20, 2017