I Apologized Because I was Wrong.

I apologized to my daughter-in-law for bullying her, trying to force her to be my "friend" on my own FB  page instead of on my beloved's.  That's so awfully, ironically..........horrible.  Trying to force her to "friend".  I am a horrible person. I know.  Hard swallow.  I KNOW.

 

I honestly apologized and asked for her forgiveness.  She gave it.  I told her "thank you".  I have all sorts of reasons I am the way I am, she has all sorts of reasons she is who she is.  We each own those, they are ours and we live our life with what we have.  I forgot that, for a while, as I WANTED what I wanted.  I forgot that.  I am a horrible human being.  I want to be a good human being.  I want to do the right thing, everytime.  I fail. 

 

I fail.  I get tired of failure. My failures seem to outweigh my successes, all the time.  Every time.  Sigh. 

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Comments (20)

  1. SEC

    and it took a maturity and strength of character to acknowledge one’s error.

    April 05, 2017
    1. GoldenPig2012

      eye roll…………………no, I don’t think that was it. Pretty sure not.

      April 06, 2017
      1. SEC

        I think you have another think coming

        April 07, 2017
        1. GoldenPig2012

          Hmph.

          April 07, 2017
  2. nico44l

    Facebook addict?, I find the lack of faith on facebook, very disturbing.

    April 05, 2017
    1. GoldenPig2012

      What the hell are you talking about?

      April 06, 2017
  3. formerlyme

    You did the right thing, and that makes you an honourable person. I respect you for taking this action, and it will surely pave the way for a better relationship with your DIL. Please stop beating yourself up, and give yourself credit for having gained an important insight…that takes intelligence and the courage to set aside your pride and re-think things from different perspectives. Congrats!

    April 05, 2017
    1. GoldenPig2012

      I’m just staring at your words. I don’t know what to do with them.

      April 06, 2017
  4. Bettymom

    I agree that you were brave (and right) to apologize. If you were my DIL, I’d be glad to have you.

    April 05, 2017
    1. GoldenPig2012

      Oh, honey, my MIL’s LOVE me, it’s the DIL that hates me. Of course, I don’t like her, either.

      April 06, 2017
  5. jaageet

    I disagree with all the folks above. Pig couldn’t help being a pig and that’s what she is – an obnoxious pig. If the daughter-in-law cannot deal with a pig of a mother-in-law, then she can go to hell. Who said that mother-in-laws are supposed to be wonderful? They are not, and Pig is perfect.

    April 06, 2017
    1. formerlyme

      Opinions of hostile little twits like you are irrelevant to adult discussions. Go play in your sand box!

      April 06, 2017
    2. GoldenPig2012

      jaageet, well, thank you and you are right. I am not perfect and there is a reason mothers-in-law are jokes and have been for centuries. I can’t help being me, she is who she is……………classic.

      April 06, 2017
      1. jaageet

        You have expressed time and again about the kind of person you are. You know that you are human with all the warts that come with being human and you are ok with it. So, why humiliate yourself seeking approval from others; especially, a daughter-in-law who should know better her position in the family hierarchy. She owes it to herself to defer to you, to show some respect for her husband’s mother, help mend fences, and show your son the need to love you by learning to love you herself. The important thing is this: you are not inherently cruel and you know it. That’s enough.

        April 06, 2017
        1. GoldenPig2012

          Oh, crap! I was seeking her, ugh, shudder………approval. shit. I was. Ewwwww…………I WAS! Ugh. I’m embarrassed. crap.

          She doesn’t have to “defer” to me, but responding to me is only polite, even if it’s a “fuck you”, that’s more polite than ignoring someone whom she KNOWS does not deal well with being ignored. But………….courtesy flows both ways. I will send a flood of it her way.

          That sounded vaguely threatening, didn’t it?

          April 07, 2017
  6. noahbody

    You are NOT a horrible person. You are human. No more, no less. You did the right thing and that counts for a lot.

    April 06, 2017
    1. GoldenPig2012

      You know, more than most, that I AM a horrible, hateful person. But, thank you for the encouragement.

      April 06, 2017
      1. noahbody

        No. I know you to have a good heart. A beautiful one.

        April 06, 2017
        1. GoldenPig2012

          It isn’t, gosh, it isn’t. It’s not ALL black and decaying, true, but………………..I still don’t like her, I think she’s just as selfish and self-centered as I and she’s using her status as my son’s wife for “power”, whether she knows it or not. I BELIEVE that.

          I was wrong, whether she’s a nice person or serial killer, I was wrong and that’s on me. Dammit. You know, I have tried very hard not to let people think I’m “nice” because it makes me weak and people take advantage, thinking they have something “over” me. I hate that. I also hate that. rarely in life, I AM weak…………nice. You understand, right, that people can and will hurt you, every chance they get. They WILL take from you to give to themselves. Right?

          April 06, 2017
          1. noahbody

            You don’t have to like her. That doesn’t make you a bad person.

            April 06, 2017